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Resistance

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We resist the world in two ways: we want the negative things to stop and we force the positive things to continue. We do what we can to avoid or get rid of the negatives and we search for ways to let the positives stay.  This is considered normal. This is also insane. Why? Because this pattern of resistance is going against the flow of life. We pull one way and life pulls the other way. This friction causes disruption, unhappiness, diseases, stress. We believe that if only we can get rid of the negative situations and focus on the positive events that our lives will be better. But unfortunately this is not the case. The positive already contains within itself the concealed negative. We can not have one without the other. It is part of the dance of life.

So how do we deal with the fluctuating forms that come and go without going mad? The key is to allow things and people to be as they are.  We don’t force our opinions and judgments on others. We permit events to happen without interfering with them. We create space within ourselves so forms can move the way that life intended them to be. We then notice that things magically improve. The negative that we once avoided, but were forced to accept, suddenly changes into something creative and beneficial. The positive that we clung to would have turned into excess and waste, had it not been curbed. It is only through non-resistance and surrender that we go beyond the play of forms and experience the beauty of life.

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Service

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If we serve the world, the world will serve us. This is one of the teachings of Swami Parthasarathy, which is reflected everywhere. If we look at the history of civilization, we find that the people that truly made a difference were those who gave freely without asking anything in return. Mother Teresa and St. Francis easily come to mind. They did what they did because it was the right thing to do. And the miracle is that they never lacked for anything. Everything that they needed always came to them without any effort on their part.

In our current state of affairs, however, the opposite is true.  We want the world to serve us and want it done NOW. We demand that people and situations cater to us. When we go to the restaurant we want to be seated right away by the hostess or we go somewhere else. When we go to the bank, we want our banker to answer our questions then and there or we file a complaint. When we go to a retail store, we want the saleslady to cater to us or we demand to speak to the manager. We say that of course we deserve to be treated right away. After all, we are paying these people for their  services. But is this really the case? Or could it be that we want each moment to satisfy us so we can be ourselves?

The truth is that we can only find our true selves when we stop looking for satisfaction out there. We go within and feel our own essence. We feel the stillness inside and let it permeate our being. We are able to let go of our rigid expectations that people, places and situations make us happy. We give service freely and truly. And because we serve the world, the world will serve us, as illustrated by Dave Lerner in this article: https://www.openforum.com/articles/how-to-make-contacts-the-right-way/.


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Work is Rest

We spend most of our lives working to make a living. But we are stressed at work and so we are not productive and creative. We have to deal with a multitude of problems and people that we feel constantly agitated. How do we change our work environment from being stressful to restful and peaceful (and maybe even joyful)? The key is to be at peace while doing our jobs. To let our minds be at rest while our bodies are working.  Swami Parthasarathy says that work in itself is not tiresome. It is actually an avenue for us to express ourselves. But our true selves are held captive by the worries of the past and anxieties of the future. This saps us of our energy and disturbs our being. We make hell out of heaven.

In other words, our egos get in the way. There is an intention behind what we do so our actions are hindered. We are selfish so our minds are disturbed. No selfish person is happy and peaceful. But if we change our attitude from one of selfishness to one of selflessness, then this changes the dynamics of the situation. We begin to serve others and the world. We perform a task just for the joy of doing it. We become the architect of our fortune. It is not what we are doing that makes us noble but how we are doing things.


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Hole

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When we lose something or someone, we feel a hole in the fabric of our existence. We attach our sense of self to people and things so that when these forms leave us (and they will), we lose our identity. We don’t feel enough. We feel abandoned, betrayed, angry, confused, hurt, depressed, anxious. We struggle to cover up the hole by finding another person or thing to replace the person or object that we lost. But when the new person’s flaws come out or the thing no longer satisfies us, we feel the same kind of frustration that we felt before. And what’s more, we blame them for failing to make us happy. We are on a perpetual treadmill of chasing after happiness.

How can we free ourselves from this vicious cycle ? The key is to surrender–to accept the things that happen to us without creating a story. We don’t resist what happens; we let it happen. We allow the pain and suffering to move through our body without the painful story associated with it.  We break the link between our thoughts and emotions. We reduce the situation to nothingness so we are no longer bound to it. We are then able to let go of the story and the person or thing, and  feel the deep sense of peace and inner joy inside us. We become spacious inside.

We realize that when something bad happens to us, the universe is creating a hole so it can thread through it the strands that bind us all and make us one with the totality. It strips us of our illusions and our ego, so we have nothing, like the rest of creation. It is during these moments of spaciousness that God comes in with His all-embracing love, takes care of us and connects us with every being so we experience the fullness of life.

When we reach this stage, all things come to us with no effort or struggle. Henry David Thoreau said it best when he stated, “Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.”

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The Rainmaker

When we see nature after a rainfall, we see beauty and abundance everywhere. It is a wonderful experience to smell the flowers and shrubs, to listen to the birds singing, to see butterflies darting here and there, and maybe occasionally see a rainbow in the distance. It seems like the earth is fresh and alive after taking a shower.

Why does it rain? As we know, rain occurs when the air is saturated and water vapors in the clouds get too heavy and fall into the earth in the form of rain. There is something we can learn here. When a person is full of good deeds that overflow and touch the people and situations around him/her (ie this person is “heavy” with goodness), the world will shower this person with abundance and blessings. He/she is called  a “rainmaker”.

Most of us only put a minimum of effort into what we do and expect a lot of reward  and recognition in return. Everything we do is geared to gain other people’s attention and admiration. Half of our attention is focused on what we do and the other half on what we will get out of it. Our actions are limited, inferior and mediocre and often get the opposite results.  But when we let go of our expectations and instead focus on the action itself, we experience the beauty of the present moment. We feel our aliveness and the essence of all beings around us. Our actions are done with great care and attention and benefit everyone. Why is this? Because the universe is working through us. We become one with the totality. We are able to bring forth joy, abundance, beauty, goodness and everything else that is needed. Over time, we become “rainmakers”.


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Strands

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Pain happens when we are unable to let go of our rigid expectations. We fight the present moment because we want a different moment. We don’t want what we have, and we want what we don’t have. If only we did this or we got that, we will be happy, fulfilled, or satisfied. Or the other way around. We got what we wanted and we find that it makes us miserable and unhappy. We want the forms in our life to satisfy us, which they never will. No matter how hard we try, what we do or have will never be good enough.

Why is this so? Because forms are in constant movement. They are here today and gone tomorrow. They are part of the cosmic dance of the universe that is in perpetual motion. This constant pressure causes forms to collide, disintegrate and reconstitute into new forms, including strands that bind us all.

When we let go of our expectations and go with the flow of life, we allow the strands to embrace us and take us to where the universe wants us to be. Even if it means facing pain. We trust that the universe is there to protect us, guide us, and love us. We then realize this truth: when we face pain, accept it, and let it go, we are able to move past it and open ourselves to life. And that the strands are woven into our existence to make our lives richer, fuller, and more abundant.

Eckhart Tolle said it best when he stated, “Life is the dancer. We are the dance.”

 

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Spotlight

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The way of out pain is to put the spotlight on it. We observe it as it happens. We don’t run away from it. We don’t blame anybody for it, neither do we blame ourselves for it. We don’t take drugs, alcohol or pills to deaden it. We allow it to be there with no judgment whatsoever. This is at first hard to do because the mind is full of energy and wants us to do something to create a story–one of the countless stories it had amassed over the years–to keep us trapped in our baggage of thoughts.  But if we continue to focus our attention on the pain, we realize that it is just energy that is moving through our body. There is no thought or story associated with it. We break the link between our thoughts and emotions. We create space within ourselves and are able to get off the endless treadmill of action and reaction. We feel an inner stillness that was not there before. Little by little, we release some part of the baggage that we had carried around for years, and we feel our true self that was hidden underneath.

It is like turning the light on in our closet. We see the clothes, shoes, scarves, jackets, coats, and other knickknacks that have piled up in this space. Every nook and cranny is full to bursting with things we have accumulated over the years. We had so much stuff that we were drowning in them.  Oftentimes, we can’t find what we are looking for because it is buried underneath a pile of things. But now that the light is on, we become aware. We realize that we need to free up space. We are no longer compelled to shove things through our closet without thinking. Piece by piece, we start to get rid of unessential things so what is left is the genuine stuff that we truly need. Letting go of the pain is the same. It doesn’t happen overnight, but comes to pass every moment when we shed light on it.