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Hole

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When we lose something or someone, we feel a hole in the fabric of our existence. We attach our sense of self to people and things so that when these forms leave us (and they will), we lose our identity. We don’t feel enough. We feel abandoned, betrayed, angry, confused, hurt, depressed, anxious. We struggle to cover up the hole by finding another person or thing to replace the person or object that we lost. But when the new person’s flaws come out or the thing no longer satisfies us, we feel the same kind of frustration that we felt before. And what’s more, we blame them for failing to make us happy. We are on a perpetual treadmill of chasing after happiness.

How can we free ourselves from this vicious cycle ? The key is to surrender–to accept the things that happen to us without creating a story. We don’t resist what happens; we let it happen. We allow the pain and suffering to move through our body without the painful story associated with it.  We break the link between our thoughts and emotions. We reduce the situation to nothingness so we are no longer bound to it. We are then able to let go of the story and the person or thing, and  feel the deep sense of peace and inner joy inside us. We become spacious inside.

We realize that when something bad happens to us, the universe is creating a hole so it can thread through it the strands that bind us all and make us one with the totality. It strips us of our illusions and our ego, so we have nothing, like the rest of creation. It is during these moments of spaciousness that God comes in with His all-embracing love, takes care of us and connects us with every being so we experience the fullness of life.

When we reach this stage, all things come to us with no effort or struggle. Henry David Thoreau said it best when he stated, “Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.”

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Strands

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Pain happens when we are unable to let go of our rigid expectations. We fight the present moment because we want a different moment. We don’t want what we have, and we want what we don’t have. If only we did this or we got that, we will be happy, fulfilled, or satisfied. Or the other way around. We got what we wanted and we find that it makes us miserable and unhappy. We want the forms in our life to satisfy us, which they never will. No matter how hard we try, what we do or have will never be good enough.

Why is this so? Because forms are in constant movement. They are here today and gone tomorrow. They are part of the cosmic dance of the universe that is in perpetual motion. This constant pressure causes forms to collide, disintegrate and reconstitute into new forms, including strands that bind us all.

When we let go of our expectations and go with the flow of life, we allow the strands to embrace us and take us to where the universe wants us to be. Even if it means facing pain. We trust that the universe is there to protect us, guide us, and love us. We then realize this truth: when we face pain, accept it, and let it go, we are able to move past it and open ourselves to life. And that the strands are woven into our existence to make our lives richer, fuller, and more abundant.

Eckhart Tolle said it best when he stated, “Life is the dancer. We are the dance.”

 

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Spotlight

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The way of out pain is to put the spotlight on it. We observe it as it happens. We don’t run away from it. We don’t blame anybody for it, neither do we blame ourselves for it. We don’t take drugs, alcohol or pills to deaden it. We allow it to be there with no judgment whatsoever. This is at first hard to do because the mind is full of energy and wants us to do something to create a story–one of the countless stories it had amassed over the years–to keep us trapped in our baggage of thoughts.  But if we continue to focus our attention on the pain, we realize that it is just energy that is moving through our body. There is no thought or story associated with it. We break the link between our thoughts and emotions. We create space within ourselves and are able to get off the endless treadmill of action and reaction. We feel an inner stillness that was not there before. Little by little, we release some part of the baggage that we had carried around for years, and we feel our true self that was hidden underneath.

It is like turning the light on in our closet. We see the clothes, shoes, scarves, jackets, coats, and other knickknacks that have piled up in this space. Every nook and cranny is full to bursting with things we have accumulated over the years. We had so much stuff that we were drowning in them.  Oftentimes, we can’t find what we are looking for because it is buried underneath a pile of things. But now that the light is on, we become aware. We realize that we need to free up space. We are no longer compelled to shove things through our closet without thinking. Piece by piece, we start to get rid of unessential things so what is left is the genuine stuff that we truly need. Letting go of the pain is the same. It doesn’t happen overnight, but comes to pass every moment when we shed light on it.


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Shattered

When we meet people, we often want pull them into our lives. We tell our story and expect them to agree or disagree with our viewpoint. If they agree with us, we like them. If they disagree, we dislike them or point out why they are wrong. Over time, this accumulation of thoughts (like/dislike, happiness/unhappiness, good/bad) is lodged deeply in our being that it blocks the universe from coming in. We cling to our preconceived notions because we do not want our self-worth to die. We are closed and are not able to experience a new level of consciousness. We become brittle and hard inside.  This rigidity, this unwillingness to go with the flow of life, is the tool that the universe uses to get into our lives. This unyielding attitude produces despair, suffering, or sickness, which serves as the opening through which grace comes in. We are forced to let the old forms die so new forms can emerge.The illusion of who we are is shattered and we become free.  Our pure, true self (which is vast, limitless, timeless, infinite, all-loving, all-knowing, free-flowing, and is in touch with all that is) comes to the surface. We are able to feel our own essence. We feel the aliveness within us and are able to connect with every being that we meet. Out of this awareness comes the right word, action, or person. Creativity bubbles to the surface. People come to our aid. The answer pops out of nowhere. We are able to see the benevolence even in a tragic situation.

Being one with life then becomes an adventure, even a joyous journey. We see this truth in nature. Everywhere we look, we see  plants and animals being one with life despite the disruption.  Everything is open for us to see.There is the acceptance, the allowing of things to be as they are. A flower dies but it produces seed heads that are in turn planted to create new flowers. A tree sheds its leaves in autumn and goes into hibernation in winter, ready to blossom again in the spring. A caterpillar goes through a painful transformation to become a beautiful butterfly. There is a reason and a season for everything. All we have to do is let things be.


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Stripped

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We live in a civilization that is preoccupied with things, or in its basic form, thoughts. We are always running towards the next thing to do, to have, to achieve. We don’t treasure the present moment because we believe that the next moment will bring us fulfillment, joy, or happiness. But when the next moment arrives, we find that it is not enough, that something is missing. Or we discover that something or someone comes to disrupt the moment and we are left wishing for a different outcome. We don’t want what we have, and we want what we don’t have. This affliction has led us to suffering, despair, nervous breakdown, even death.

How can we free ourselves of this useless, self-defeating attitude? We start by being friendly with the present moment, no matter what it brings–whether it is a screaming customer, a  crying child, an argumentative co-worker, a scheming relative, a dying mother. We watch the situation and let it play out without any thought or comment. We cease to identify with the stories and forms that come with the situation and so we are not drawn into the tears, the stress, the drama, the frustration. We surrender to suffering, loss, despair, even death. This act of surrender frees us from our entanglement with forms so that our formless, beautiful spirit is released. This spirit is a vast, loving, dynamic, infinite, all-loving, all-knowing presence. It burns up the negative energy that was swirling around the situation and turns it into something pure and wonderful. We discover that death or suffering is life’s way of stripping us of illusions so we  can realize the true essence of our being. We open ourselves to life and are able to connect with every being without any attachment. We know that forms come and go but our real self is timeless and will live forever. As Antoine de Saint-Exupery wrote in The Little Prince, “Perfection is finally attained not when there is no longer anything to add but when there is no longer anything to take away.

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This post is dedicated to my beloved mother, who passed away peacefully on Thanksgiving, 11/28/13. This one’s for you, Mommy!

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Fleeting

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When we are in the middle of a dilemma, our mind jumps from one scenario to another. We go around in circles, frantically looking for a solution. We spend sleepless nights replaying stories and incidents in our head. We ruin our health and state of mind over something that has not happened (the future) or something that had already happened (the past).  Both of which are outside our control. This need to bend situations and people to our will has caused diseases, stress, nervous breakdowns, even death.

How much easier it would be to leave life as it is and enjoy the present moment. This moment right now is simple. But concealed in it is a powerful force that is flowing, spacious, all-encompassing, all-knowing. When we allow this moment as it is, we create space within ourselves and allow this life force to work and live through us. We are no longer bound by the spectrum of polar opposites (good/bad, happiness/unhappiness, high/low) so we go beyond our mind’s limited perspective.  We cease identifying with the stories in our head and become aware of the space within and around us. The negative energy that was swirling around the situation dissipates into space, leaving us with a fresh perspective. We feel our own essence as well as the essence of every being that we meet and are able to connect with them. The solution, the answer, the right action, bubbles to surface when we are friendly with the present moment.

The seriousness of the dilemma is recognized as false because we move from superficial reality (which is harsh) to genuine reality (which is benevolent).  We realize that forms are fleeting and ephemeral–they are here today and gone tomorrow–and that no matter how good or bad the situation is, it too will change. We anchor ourselves to the formless life force and experience the peace that is beyond all understanding. As Eckhart Tolle said, “Nothing real is threatened. Nothing unreal exists. Herein lies the peace of God.”


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Unfolding

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When we look around us we see problems everywhere. A sister’s marriage is ending in divorce. We lost our job and will likely lose our house. Creditors are hounding us for money. Our kid dropped out of college. A favorite aunt is dying of cancer. The list goes on and on. We try to fix the problem and do everything we can to make things right. We spend sleepless nights trying to find a way out of our dilemma. We hatch various schemes to make things better. But we find out that once a problem is fixed, another pops up in its place. We are in a constant need of chasing the next moment because we believe it will make us happy and fulfilled. This brings us to despair because it seems that nothing we do is ever enough.

The way out of this state of unhappiness is to allow the pain to be there and not run away from it or blame others for it. We realize that we don’t have the power to unfold our life. That power lies in the universe. So we surrender to the pain, stress, drama, worry, or anxiety. We feel the energy that moves through our body and understand that the pain that we feel is humanity’s pain that goes back thousands of years ago. It is not personal and it is not us. We de-personalize the pain and allow it to leave our body. We then feel the stillness within, which is our true self. This self is one with everything and everyone, and is untouched by what happened to us in the past. It travels through space and connects us with the right person, action, or event such that the results are much better than what we could possibly imagine, envision, or visualize. Through surrender, we welcome a new state of consciousness that is beyond our limited mind.

Remember this: when we let go of our impossible expectations and let life unfold, life will take care of us.