Everything that happens, good or bad, is interwoven into the fabric of our existence. One polar opposite can not exist without the other. The tapestry of life is colorful, beautiful, and powerful. It cannot exist on one single thread but needs other myriad threads to be whole.
Our mistake lies in wanting only one side (good things) and avoiding the other (bad things). We lose our balance because our attention is focused on a tiny aspect of life, not on life itself. There is balance everywhere if we only open ourselves to this truth.
The key is to allow things and people to be as they are. This lets us go deeper into awareness so we lose our rigid concepts. We step out of our mind and see things from a higher perspective. We realize that everything, good or bad, was meant to be. We learn that reality is whole and indivisible and can not be otherwise. Everything has its place and purpose in the vastness of the universe. We then become open to life so life lives through us and brings us to the perfect moment.