The truth is within us. If we look for it anywhere else, we will be disappointed. It is not something that we find out there but something that we feel inside us. The reason we don’t feel it is because we are preoccupied with the thoughts swirling in our heads. We get pulled into the drama, stress, or problems. But when we are still, the truth bubbles to the surface. Answers, intuitions, insights come to us easily. We are more likely to take right action when we act out of awareness than unconsciousness.
When we are in the midst of a conflict situation, we are overcome by negative emotions. Stories from our past flow into our pain, which creates more pain. We play the mental movie of “The Unhappy Me” over and over in our head. We look at the situation from a pessimistic viewpoint and get a distorted view of life. We thus become overwhelmed that we feel there is no way out of our dilemma.
It is similar to catching a ball that somebody throws at us. We not only catch it, but we internalize it and let it become part of our self-image. We catch other people’s thoughts and make them our own, even if they are against our nature. Is it any wonder that we are stressed, depressed, irritable and anxious?
How do we free ourselves from mental distortion? We start by observing the negativity in us. We watch the stream of antagonistic thoughts conjured by the mind. We step back from the torrent of unfavorable concepts in our head. We create space within ourselves. Our pure, true self, which was buried underneath the pile of destructive thoughts, is able to shine through and connect us with everything that exists. We thus see the situation clearly and find a way out of our dilemma.
When we give without expecting anything in return, we are powerful. We are in control of our destiny. We do things for the sheer enjoyment of it. Our work is of high quality because there is attention and care in what we do.
We do not wait for others to make us happy. We are happy and abundant and we share it with everyone. We give people our full attention. They feel this positive energy and gravitate towards us.
Or, if someone is blaming us, we watch the situation. We don’t react and defend ourselves against the criticism. We allow ourselves to be diminished and permit others to experience their feelings at that moment. We don’t add fuel to an explosive situation.
And the miracle is that once we allow ourselves to be diminished and let others be as they are, things start to change. Other people come to our aid. Situations suddenly turn around for the better. Why is this so? Because we permitted the hard shell of our ego to crumble so we become an opening from which consciousness flows into this world. We let the power of the universe move through us and set us free.
Problems seem to abound everywhere. There is conflict in the workplace, confusion in our homes, dysfunction in our relationships, chaos in our country and all over the world. It seems like our universe is falling apart. Nothing makes sense anymore. We feel squeezed by the pressures of daily living. We look to escape from the present moment by fighting, rejecting or running away from it. But these actions somehow worsen the situation.
The way to be free is to accept this moment as it is. We allow space to flow into our lives and change the seemingly chaotic forms into harmonious forms. We become an opening through which the abundance of the universe flows copiously. Why? Because we are freed of the illusions created by our mind. We become free. Our genuine self bubbles to the surface and connects us with all of creation. We become one with the whole.
New Year. New Expectations. New Beginnings. This is the time to let go of our old self so our new self can emerge. We become a beautiful, genuine being.
For most of us however, transformation is not easy. We resist it. We flee from it. We avoid it. If we let go of our old concepts, then who are we? We cling to the known, even if it is detrimental to our being, because we are scared of the unknown. We are imprisoned in our own cage of useless, repetitive thinking. We are not able to experience the fullness of life.
How do we change our lives and become free? How do we experience life in all its glory? The answer is to accept things, people and situations –good or bad–to be as they are. We observe the procession of forms in our lives without judgment or comment. We permit the bad things to play their role in the fabric of our existence. We cherish the good things while they last and release them when they leave. We discard our unrealistic and rigid expectations. We ditch our ego.
This powerful practice stops our mind from creating illusions. Past and future thus fade away. We are left with the beauty of the present moment. We become one with life. This is when right action happens and joyful things come to us because we align ourselves with the power of the universe. We become connected to the whole.
We therefore realize this truth: the things of this world no longer bind us. We relish them when they come and relinquish them when they leave. We become free.
There is balance in the world around us. There is sadness but there is also happiness. There is darkness but there is also light. There is bad but there is also good. One cannot exist without the other. These polarities exist within our universe.
Why is it that we can’t see or feel the balance around us? Because we see the world not as it is but as we are. We are preoccupied with things or concepts that we fail to see the beauty of the present moment. And because these forms are fleeting, we are in a perpetual state of unease. We cling to one side and ignore the other side. We only see the negative but not the positive. We focus on things that are wrong instead of things that are right.
For instance, when we walk on a forest trail at dusk, we are afraid of the dark. We hurry along to get out of the darkness and into the brightness of a busy street. In our rush, we fail to see the beauty of the fireflies that lit the bushes. It seems that a million Christmas lights are strung along the bushes giving it an ethereal quality. Out of the gloom comes the glow of radiance.
How do we get in touch with the abundance that is everywhere? How do we find our balance? We start by observing things without judging them. We study and watch, without needing to change them. We become aware. Out of this awareness comes the understanding that is beyond the polarities. We are thus able to connect with our pure essence, which is one with the essence of all beings. We become balanced.
When we allow ourselves to be who we are, we feel our true essence. We are at ease with ourselves. We feel the essence of other people around us and allow them to be who they are. We surrender and go with the movement of life. It is during this moment that we discover that reality is benevolent. Why? Because we allow life to move through us. We go beyond good or bad and touch the abiding presence within us that is connected with all that is. Somehow, the answer, the solution or right action comes to us effortlessly.
Why is it so difficult to surrender? Because our ego gets in the way. It does not want us to be vulnerable. It sees vulnerability as a weakness. But if we surrender and share our vulnerability with others, we are able to connect with them and be strengthened by them. We become one with them.We become fearless.