When somebody curses at me or calls me names, I remind myself that the epithets are just garbage coming out of the attacker’s mouth. The issue is not personal and it is not about me. The other person is having a bad day. He/she is having an energy release, and I just happen to be the nearest observer to witness it. I am then able to watch the torrent of words without emotion. I look at the other person with curiosity, even interest. The strange thing is that when I bring awareness into the situation, it begins to change. The energy turns from harmful to healthy. Why? Because I created an opening for the universe to dissolve the negative energy and transform it into positive energy. I am left with a fresh, powerful feeling.
When we awaken to the power within us, we don’t pick up the guilt, anger or resentment that are thrown our way. We watch an explosive situation with no comment or judgment. We do this for no other reason than to understand it, to learn as much as we could about it. We don’t seek to change it, interpret it, or blame it. We make the anger, guilt or resentment a non-issue. We allow it to be there. The strange thing is that when we are in this state of acceptance, the situation begins to change. Why? Because we allowed space to penetrate our consciousness and diffuse the negative energy that was swirling around us. We then experience the bliss that was hiding underneath the negativity.
My mind constantly streams thoughts of the past and the future. I look to the past for my identity and to the future for my fulfillment. Both are illusions. Only the present moment can free me of these illusions.
But how can I stop the constant streaming in my head? The key is to watch my thoughts with no comments or judgments. I look at them as if I have no connection to them whatsoever. I am saying, “I am here and my thoughts are there.” When I dis-entangle myself from thinking, I take emotions out of my thoughts.
The curious thing is that when I dis-identify with my thoughts, they no longer drag me down the river of despair and anxiety. Thus, the past loses its power to control me and the future loses its promise to fulfill me. I become free.
When I surrender to the present moment, I go with the flow of life. I open myself to life, and life moves through me. Miraculously, people come to my aid. Out of the blue, a solution arises to a perplexing problem. A creative idea pops into my head. The blockage that was inside me suddenly disappeared and is replaced by stillness–an alive presence that is one with all and untouched by it all. I feel my connection with everything and know that all is well.
When I watch everything that happens to me without judgment or comment, I become one with the present moment. I stop identifying with anything or anyone. I become free.
I start to focus on what I have, rather than what I don’t have. I realize that whatever I need will be given to me at the right moment. I begin to trust in life. I experience bliss.
A Happy and Blissful New Year to all!
When I don’t run away from pain or suffering, I discover that things are not as bad as they seem. It was dreadful only because I saw one side of the issue. When I face the situation, I realize that there is also a benevolent side to it. Moreover, I get the resources and help needed to cope with the matter at hand.
I discover depth when I delve deeper into the problem instead of focusing on the surface appearance of forms. In doing so, I realize that the world is always balanced. There is bad, but there is also good. There is pain but there is also comfort. There is sorrow, but there is also joy. The key is to look at the event in an open, non-judgmental way.
When we are in the midst of a conflict situation, we are overcome by negative emotions. Stories from our past flow into our pain, which creates more pain. We play the mental movie of “The Unhappy Me” over and over in our head. We look at the situation from a pessimistic viewpoint and get a distorted view of life. We thus become overwhelmed that we feel there is no way out of our dilemma.
It is similar to catching a ball that somebody throws at us. We not only catch it, but we internalize it and let it become part of our self-image. We catch other people’s thoughts and make them our own, even if they are against our nature. Is it any wonder that we are stressed, depressed, irritable and anxious?
How do we free ourselves from mental distortion? We start by observing the negativity in us. We watch the stream of antagonistic thoughts conjured by the mind. We step back from the torrent of unfavorable concepts in our head. We create space within ourselves. Our pure, true self, which was buried underneath the pile of destructive thoughts, is able to shine through and connect us with everything that exists. We thus see the situation clearly and find a way out of our dilemma.