We live in a world that is focused on instant praise and recognition. Everything that we do has a motive. When we do something good, we want to be patted on the back. We want someone to tell us that we did a good job, that we made a difference. If we stayed late at work to finish a report, we made sure the boss knew it. If we gave money to the poor, we want our names listed as donors. If we donated clothes to the homeless, we made sure our neighbors saw our good deed. When we don’t get the recognition we deserve (which happens all the time), we get hurt and angry. We feel that people don’t care and the world is a cruel place. We stop our good deeds and hide behind a mask of indifference or anger. Why are we like this? Why do we impose our beliefs on others and the world? Why can’t we leave things and people alone? Because we are so preoccupied with forms that we forget the formless, the space that allows things to happen. We believe that the forms in our lives (money, praise, prestige, friends, and family) will bring us joy and happiness. But forms are in constant flux–they come and go all the time. When they leave us, we feel a hole in the fabric of our lives. Most of us can not bear the pain, so we cover up the hole with fleeting forms hoping that they will give us satisfaction–and always coming up empty-handed.
How do we end this fruitless search? How do we achieve balance in our lives? We start by watching the events that come and go without comment or judgment. We don’t get entangled with forms. We leave things as they are so that the formless consciousness can move through the different forms and transform them into something wonderful. We become conscious of space and feel the essence of each being. We are then compelled to do right action, which brings peace, joy and satisfaction. When we do things in this way, we start building a new reality, a new life. Over time, our actions will come to fruition.
It is similar to drinking a glass of water. Every right action we do is like a drop of water filling a glass. A single drop of good deed by itself cannot fill a glass. But several selfless actions done over a long period of time will continuously fill the glass until it is full to overflowing. When this happens, we experience the spillover effect and are able to drink the abundance, praise, love, and recognition that we deserve. The universe has limitless resources that are waiting for us to uncover.
Here’s an article by Dave Lerner that illustrates this concept: https://www.openforum.com/articles/how-to-make-contacts-the-right-way/