We live in a civilization that is reactive. As soon as someone says something (good or bad), we immediately react to what is said. Others don’t wait for us to finish our sentences–they immediately pounce on our words and tell us their opinions. This usually starts an argument, and not long after that, a fight. Why are we like this? Why do we impose our thinking on others? And why don’t we give others a chance to say what they have to say? Because we fear a loss of image, a loss of self. And what is the self but a bunch of beliefs that we have accumulated through the years? These beliefs are not real, not personal and not who we are. They are illusions that go away once we put the spotlight of awareness on them.
How do we do that? The next time someone criticizes us or says something that is for or against our beliefs, we do nothing. We don’t react or retaliate. We look at the other person without thought or judgment. We let the other person say what he/she has to say. If there is anger inside us during the interaction, we observe it without adding a story to it. At first it seems like the anger is a fiery energy that threatens to consume us. But as we stay present, we feel the energy dissipate and dissolve into the space around us. We then feel the other person’s presence without the baggage of thoughts. We gain a deeper understanding of his/her being and are compelled to do the right thing. We let go of our illusions and welcome life.