We live in a world that thrives on judging things, people, or situations. As soon as something is observed, it is categorized and judged as one or the other–good/bad, positive/negative, happiness/unhappiness. Our sense of self is attached to our positions and beliefs and then when things change or loss occurs (a spouse leaves, a child moves away, a friend dies), we feel confused, frustrated and in despair. There is a hole in the fabric of our being and we try to fix it or mend it as soon as we can. We don’t leave things as they are, so we become entangled with the forms of life.
We can disentangle from form by watching things unfold before our eyes without fixing or judging them. We allow people and situations to be as they are. We don’t impose our views on them, so we are able to accommodate different perspectives. We become aware of a vast field of spaciousness that embraces everything, and realize that forms comprise a tiny fraction of it. Even if forms change and fluctuate, space will always be there to absorb the destruction of form so new forms can arise. Things then lose their heaviness and intensity, and we see the goodness, the essence of life in everything and everyone. Instead of being separate from life, we become one with life.