Eckhart Tolle points out that whenever we are upset with something or someone, the real cause is not the event or person but a loss of true perspective that only space can provide. As we know, the universe is composed of objects (thoughts, people, situation) and space (stillness, silence, nothingness). But we are so hypnotized by objects (good or bad) and our thoughts about them, that we lose ourselves in them. We get attached to things and people and we go crazy when we lose them. We are trapped in our thoughts because there is no space in our lives.
The way to live a balanced life is to be aware of both objects and space. We watch things and people unfold before our eyes without judging them or fixing them. We let them play their roles in the universe without interference. We give them space to be themselves. We disidentify with form so that the power that was trapped in the form is freed and released to the universe. The good that was hiding behind the form emerges, and affects everybody around it. We gain a new perspective and are then compelled to do the right thing. Right action happens at the right time with the right people when the universe is at work. We experience true peace and are able to enjoy the things in this world without becoming addicted to them. We play with forms instead of fearing or resenting them.