We often feel inadequate so we look to the world of things to add to our sense of self. We buy a big house, purchase an expensive car, or wear trendy clothes–all in the hope that these things will cover up our sense of not enough and make us feel important. We identify with things that are passing which never make us happy in the long run because the polarity of forms–good/bad, positive/negative, high/low–will always manifest sooner or later.
If we have a big house, we pay higher taxes, utility and repair expenses. If we have an expensive car, we pay a lot of money to maintain its spotless condition. If we wear trendy clothes, we constantly update our wardrobe and thus end up in credit card debt or bankruptcy. If all we do is identify with form, we will always be out of balance and in despair.
How do we break this vicious cycle? We withdraw identification from form and welcome the formless into our lives. We let go of our need to control things and become friendly with whatever happens at the present moment. We allow things to change or disappear so that space can come into our lives. We become less so we can be more. We release our heavy burden of thoughts, judgments, and beliefs into the universe so something wonderful can happen. In other words, we let our false sense of self dissolve so our true self can emerge. The less baggage (or self-identification) we have, the more we are able to enjoy life. As a buddhist monk puts it, “No self, no problem.”