At some point in our lives, someone had hurt us. This could be a friend, a parent, a spouse, a sibling, a colleague. More often than not, we resent this person who caused us pain and unhappiness. We are attached to him/her through our negative emotions. This leads to stress, insomnia, nervous breakdown, or an assortment of diseases that assault the body.
How can we free ourselves from this cycle of unhappiness and be mentally and physically healthy? The key is to surrender–to accept the things that happen to us without creating a story. We don’t resist what happens; we let it happen. We realize that the perpetrator of the pain is just acting out pre-conditioned habits that he/she learned. There is nobody there but a bunch of thoughts and beliefs. In other words, there was nothing and nobody in the situation, so how could there be pain? We reduce the situation to nothingness so we are no longer bound to it. We then let go of the story and the person, and feel the emotion in the body (whether it is anger, resentment, sadness, etc.) that is freed and transmuted into peace and inner joy.
When we surrender, we realize that we are here not to be happy but to be conscious. We then experience life in its fullness–from positive to negative, from sadness to joy, from birth to death, from success to failure–and know that all is well because we created a space within ourselves so God can come in and take care of us!