Here is a story that illustrates how to create space in our lives: the Buddha was walking with his disciples on a country road. There they met a man who did not agree with the Buddha’s teachings. The man ranted and raved and called the Buddha every imaginable word. The Buddha remained silent and watched the man. After the outburst, the man left and the Buddha and his disciples went on their way. The disciples were very upset because they believed that the Buddha should have defended himself against the tirade. When they reached their destination, they asked the Buddha why he did not retaliate against the man who verbally abused him. The Buddha was puzzled and asked which man were they talking about. The disciples reminded him about the man they met on the road a few hours ago who was raging mad. The Buddha then remembered and said that the man had right to say what he had to say, and that he, the Buddha, had a right to reject it.
There is an important lesson here: if we let people and events be as they are without inserting ourselves into them, we create space. This way, we don’t let the world determine our happiness and unhappines. This is observing without judging. Great power lies in it. Eckhart Tolle says, “Everything comes from nothing, is surrounded by nothing, and goes back to nothing.” However bad or good the situation may be, it, too, will change. Our goal is not to get entangled in form but to observe the play of form (instead of freezing the form in our mind and playing it back over and over again). We create space and then feel the essence of each being that we meet. We become one with them.